When the Mirror Shows You... Well, You

I worked on a lesson for the course on karmic re-wiring, this lesson had to be done. Let me explain, you're in a situation, things are going sideways, and you're thinking, "Ugh, these people. Why are they so difficult? Why can't they just GET IT?" You stomp off, maybe send a slightly passive-aggressive text, and then spend the next hour replaying the scene, perfectly framing yourself as the innocent victim of someone else's… well, difficulty.

And hey, sometimes that's absolutely true! There are definitely some Grade-A difficult people out there. But what if, just for a moment, we gently — very gently — turn that mirror around?

What if… it's us?

It’s a thought that can make you want to crawl under the duvet with a family-sized bag of chips, I know. But stick with me!

The Cosmic Culprits (Or, "It's Not Always My Fault, Right?")

Now, for my astrology-curious pals, you might recognize some familiar cosmic energies at play. Ever feel like you’re just naturally… a little spiky? Or maybe you have a talent for inadvertently rubbing people the wrong way?

Sometimes, planets like Mars (the fiery warrior, always ready for a debate, sometimes too ready) or Saturn (the strict taskmaster, who can accidentally come across as cold, critical, or just plain rigid) can be a factor. When these guys are strongly placed in our charts, they can give us traits that, while powerful, can sometimes make us seem a bit "difficult." We might feel lonely, misunderstood, and then, yep, we blame others. "Why doesn't anyone appreciate my directness?!" screeches Mars. "Why can't anyone just follow the rules?!" grumbles Saturn.

It's like having a superpower, but sometimes that superpower accidentally zaps your friendships instead of saving the day.

My Own "Uh Oh" Moment (A.K.A. The Great Pasta Incident)

Let me tell you a quick, slightly embarrassing story. I once had a roommate, bless her patient soul. She was a super chill, go-with-the-flow kind of person. I, on the other hand, have a rather… specific way of doing things, especially in the kitchen.

One evening, I was making my famous (to myself) pasta sauce. It’s a multi-hour production, a sacred ritual. My friend, trying to be helpful, came in and, seeing my cutting board full of tomatoes, asked, "Can I chop some of those for you?"

Now, a normal, well-adjusted human would say, "Oh, that'd be lovely, thank you!"

What came out of my mouth, however, was a rather clipped, "No, it's okay. I have a particular way I like to dice them."

Her face fell. She mumbled an "Oh, okay," and quickly exited the kitchen.

My sauce was perfect, of course. But later that night, as I ate my lonely, perfectly diced pasta, I realized something. I hadn’t just rejected her help; I’d basically told her she wasn't good enough to chop a tomato. I’d been so caught up in my "process" (read: control-freak tendencies) that I’d been unintentionally rude, dismissive, and yes… difficult.

It hit me like a ton of bricks, or perhaps a perfectly diced heirloom tomato. I wasn't the victim of someone trying to "get in my way." I was the person making someone feel unwelcome in their own home. Oof.

The Mirror Isn't Judging, It's Just Showing

This isn't about shaming ourselves. It's about empowering ourselves. When we realize we might be contributing to the "difficulty" in our relationships, it means we also have the power to change it.

Looking in that mirror and seeing a reflection that isn't always perfectly angelic can be tough. But it's also where the real growth happens. It’s where we learn to soften that Mars edge, or loosen that Saturn grip, just a tiny bit. It’s where we learn that maybe, just maybe, our "particular way" isn't always the only way, or even the best way, especially if it's costing us connection.

So, the next time you find yourself pointing a finger, take a deep breath. Ask yourself, genuinely: "Is there anything here that I'm bringing to the table? Am I contributing to this dynamic, even unintentionally?"

It might just be the most difficult question you ask yourself all day. But answering it? That's where the magic, and a whole lot less loneliness, begins.

What about you? Have you ever had an "uh oh, that was me" moment? Share your stories below – we're all in this wonderfully messy human thing together!

And join my course if you can and lets explore more how to deal with our difficulties and others who are difficulties - https://karunacare.mykajabi.com/rewiring-karmic-patterns